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Know 5 to Stay Alive: Master Your Emotions
#4: Step out of the "same old story"
Do you déjà vu? Many women find themselves unwittingly and maddeningly repeating behavior that stymies their growth, development and fulfillment — at the office, in relationships, around their family. Do you find yourself caught in the same trap, over and over? Try the three R's:
Review
Reality-check
Re-evaluate
"The most important thing really is self-knowledge — recognizing patterns and understanding what lies beneath," says Saltz. "We're often living an old story of something that happened long ago." To break the repetition, step out of the story to review it from an outsider's perspective. Give yourself a reality-check to find the root of the problem. And remember, the best vantage point can often be found on the therapist's couch, where you can get help re-evaluating the situation.
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